Stepping out of my “comfort zone” / Meeting new people
I want to apologize to my readers for the late post. The last few weeks have been quite a whirlwind, enlightening and thought-provoking. I’ve made some out-of-my-comfort-zone decisions and it’s just so exciting. The fear is just excitement without the breath. Breathe into your heart and your heart will guide you. Speaking of “comfort zone”…………
COMFORT ZONE. Yes, the all-too-familiar “It-feels-nice-here-I’m-not-leaving” feeling. That place where everything is safe, where everyone keeps their joys to themselves, where “easy” seems like the only thing left because you feel like you can’t get the support you need. Sooner or later that “it-feels-nice” feeling is going to get stagnant and you get that uneasy feeling that something might be missing.
When I think of my comfort zone, I get a mix of emotions. It makes me feel safe. It makes me feel like I don’t have to take a risk to lose what I have. But, what DO I have? I haven’t done much of anything in my comfort zone. Not much of what I wanted to accomplish, anyway. I’ll admit, I was afraid. Afraid of the unknown, afraid that I won’t have the means, afraid of what people may think (specifically some people in my family).
Yet here I am, taking a leap of faith, putting my heart out there for you to read. For those of you who may know me, I’m not much of a risk-taker or someone who takes chances. Whether you want to read it or not, posting my writing gives me a feeling of excitement, relief, accomplishment. This is one of my challenges when getting out of my comfort zone. The fear motivates me to take chances, take risks on behalf of my heart, make connections with amazing like-minded people……
…..which brings me to: Meeting new people. I must say that I’ve met more new people in the past few months than I have in the whole year! What started this crazy idea of me talking to strangers? I think it started when I met *Jen and she and my other mentors taught me the art of striking up a conversation.
(*Jen from “The Appetizer.” post)
But, I DO smile! Not all the time…..I had been known to have Resting Bitch Face (RBF) which portrayed me to have an attitude and be unapproachable. I knew that I wasn’t intentionally doing that, but it didn’t reflect on my facial expressions or body language. I quickly learned that it was not that I was shy, but it was because I had no motivation to talk to anyone. But since I was building a business I had to meet people and so I had to be approachable!
It was not an easy task. At least for me. I learned a lot about myself and how I was viewed by others. I know, I know…..who cares what people think, right? But when you’re building a business there’s a certain awareness and if you want your business to grow, you need to build trust with your clients.
So, they had me read this book: How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. It was really common sense and a lot of it I wasn’t consciously doing. It taught me to be more aware of my actions and my intentions. Soon I was getting more comfortable meeting new people and “making friends”. I felt that people found me to be more approachable and easy to talk to. Someone once said so in a comment on Uber! Reading that gave me more confidence and I wanted so much more to hear other people’s stories! [[Side note: Being an Uber driver helps with getting out of my comfort zone and initializing conversation. 😋]] This is where I came to the decision that I want to share people’s stories with the world hoping to influence and make even the slightest positive impact on someone’s life.
Since taking that first step out of my comfort zone, I began to make realizations about myself that my heart was ready to receive. I know now that I wasn’t ready for what is now happening ten years ago. I don’t know what my heart was waiting for, but I am ready and excited (“fear with the breath”). It’s going to be a long journey, but I know I have and will have the support of amazing people and I can’t wait to share their stories! ❤️
Next time on MissTris On The Move:
I feature my first story!
Justin Lott is an amazing soul who has sold all his possessions to bike tour from Texas to Canada (and back? Who knows?!). His story is inspiring and I’m excited to share his story with you!
His blog is awesome and his photos are even better! Take a peek HERE!
See you soon, friends! ❤️